What Men Need from Women

Men respond positively to praise.  One of the most common complaints men make in my office is: “Dr. Chapman, in my work I am respected.  People come to me for advice.  But at home, all I get is criticism."  What she considers suggestions, he reads as criticism.  Her efforts to stimulate growth have backfired.  

Give him praise.  The fastest way to influence a husband is to give him praise.  Praise him for effort, not perfection.  You may be asking, But if I praise him for mediocrity, will it not stifle growth?  The answer is a resounding "No”.  Your praise urges him on to greater accomplishments.

From Dr. Gary Chapman’s “Helping a Husband Grow”